On the third Monday of the year it’s Blue Monday, the most depressing day of the year, according to researchers.
The third Monday of January has been awarded with this cheerless title due to a combination post-Christmas blues, credit card bills on the doormat, failure of New Year’s resolutions and – in Europe – cold dark nights and awful weather.
The result: feeling down, being inactive and the tendency to give up totally.
Here are 9 things you might like to think and do to stick to your goal, to beat Blue Monday!
1. Never. Give. Up.
Have you “broken” your resolution yet? It is always too soon to quit. When you give up, it means you never wanted it. Just think about how far you’ve already come before you think about giving up. Don’t give up just because you had a bad day. Forgive yourself and do better tomorrow!
And remember: It doesn’t matter how slow you go, as long as you DOn’t quIT. No matter how slow your progress is, you’re still ahead of everyone who isn’t trying! So take a deep breath, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and continu!
2. Welcome your struggles!
The biggest problem is that riders think they are supposed to NOT have problems with their horses. But remember, it’s not happening TO you, but FOR you. You can’t always get what you want, you get what you need! You better love problems! See them as gifts, as a challenge, as an opportunity to learn and grow! The goal is not being without problems, but getting ‘better quality’ problems so you can learn more. So honor your struggles, they make you stronger, they make you smarter, and when you overcome them, you always become a better version of yourself!
3. Focus 100% on the solution!
Stop focussing on what is not working, stop talking about the problem and start thinking about the solution. Never spend more than 10 percent of your time on a problem with your horse, and spend at least 90 percent of your time on the solution. And even better: spend 100 percent of your time on solutions, and no time on problems! It’s okay to identify your problems with your horse, but give all your power and energy to solutions.
4. Ask better questions!
Ask better questions to get better results. Ask resourceful questions, that means don’t ask “Why” things happens to you, but ask “How” you can make things happen.
Don’t ask ‘WHY can’t’ questions:
- ‘Why can’t I do this?”
- “Why can’t life be simple?”
- “Why can’t my horse be nice?”
- “Why can’t life be fair?”
Ask ‘HOW can I’ questions:
- “How can I do this?”
- “How can I make the best of it?”
- “How can I learn to ride and enjoy the process?”
- “How can I give something to this situation?”
By asking yourself the right questions, you’ll engage your brain to help you find ways to solve your problems.
5. Raise your standards
If you want to change your circumstances, raise your standards. Stop accepting certain things. Write down all the things you would no longer accept in your life, all the things you would no longer tolerate, and all the things that you aspired to becoming. Turn your “shoulds” into “must” and your “some days” into “today”. Stop saying “I wish” and start saying “I Will”… and then change your approach and DO something today!.
6. Get moving, start doing!
By changing your physical state you can change the way you feel. If you are feeling down, take a deep breath, start moving, go to your horse and give him for example a good massage! Doing good for your horse is the best way to feel better! Or take a long walk with your horse, through a forest, park or mountain and let nature inspire you!
7. Focus on gratitude
When some things go wrong, take a moment to be thankful for the many more things that are still going right. “What are you grateful for?” Ask yourself: “What’s good about this thing that goes wrong?” “What can I learn from this?” We should commit to learning from our mistakes, rather than beating ourselves up.
8. Eliminate energy robbers.
Ask yourself “What are the ‘things’ that rob me of energy?” “What things cost me physical energy? What costs me mental and emotional energy?” Find the 20% of the things that are robbing you for 80% of your energy. Then make a plan on how to eliminate these energy robbers from your life. Every time you subtract negative from your life, you make room for more positive!
9. Plan something new with your horse.
Try something new with your horse. Whether it’s planning a clinic, or deciding what to do next weekend, looking forward to something new or different can be uplifting and refreshing. Start a new course, learn something new to get your brain active and start thinking of new things instead of dwelling on the old.
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